And now you have a thousand questions and many decisions to make before the big day comes. On the following pages you will find a crash course on wedding preparation, as well as a brief look at wedding traditions around the world.
One of the first couple of people you likely wish to tell is both the bride and groom's parents.
Next you'll want to inform you friends of the wedding. Most likely you'll want to tell everyone you know – you're about to be married!
Often you'll want to make an announcement of the wedding in a local paper. The bride's parents often do this at least two and usually a few more months in advance.
Most weddings occur in August June and September, but the busy season is April to October. Here are the most popular wedding months, in order of most popular to least popular:
1) June - Traditionally the most popular month for marriage.
12) January - Dead last.
Note that this varies depending on the source. Another source lists wedding month popularity as follows:
Next you need to decide what type of wedding to have. It can be fancy, in an elaborate wedding, or simple such as a back yard wedding. It just depends on your taste, and of course your budget.
Whatever you decide, you'll have to settle on a budget for your wedding. Some statistics show that the average wedding costs about $22,000.
You can approach this independently, tallying up how much money the two of you can afford now. Or, you can ask for help from one or both sets of parents. You can also get advise from friends on how much their wedding cost.
Customarily, the bride's family pays for many wedding expenses.
The can include:
Music and entertainment The wedding ring for the groom. All the invitations and associated stationary. Photography. The bride's wedding gown.
The cost of the wedding hall or rented location.
Flowers. Food, decorations.
The groom's side of the family usually pays for The bride's gift. The bride's rings.
Flowers. Rehearsal costs. The Honeymoon. Marriage license.
Here is a list of planning ideas to help with your upcoming wedding:
You may wish to consider hiring a wedding consultant to assist you in planning. Or, you may wish to direct all the details yourself. Another option is calling on the advise and help of relatives.
If you decide on a professional wedding consultant, make sure that she has good references, is willing to listen to you ideas, and that your generally compatible.
Planning your wedding - a list of steps:
Announce your engagement to your family and friends.
Choose and engagement ring.
Pick a wedding date.
Decide on a budget.
Create a rough draft of your wedding - formal or casual, ethnic or western, etc.
You'll need to work together to pick your wedding color scheme.
You'll also want to decide on the music and songs you want played.
Schedule the wedding portraits, as well as the engagement photos.
You may also consider premarital counseling.
Reserve the ceremony and reception places.
You'll need to make wedding day hair and make-up appointments.
Have your wedding final gown fitting.
Prior to the wedding, you may need to have a blood test, if required by your state.
Check with your wedding party - bridesmaids and best men to make sure they've gotten their outfits, confirm the arrival times, and answer any last minute questions
Contact your bakery and set up the wedding cake date.
Notify the Post Office of your upcoming change of address.
Pick your wedding party (ushers, bridal attendants, best man, etc).
Plan he reception. Pick and work with a caterer on this.
Select your florist, discuss flower arrangements.
Select your wedding outfits.
Compile a guest list.
Create a wedding gift registry with a favorite store if desired.
Select and order your wedding invitations.
Send out your wedding invitations.
Get a marriage license.
Set up accommodations for out of town guests and relatives
Put your wedding announcement in the local paper.
Just prior to the wedding, have your bridesmaid contact any invited guests that have not responded to their invitations.
You'll need to arrange for parking and possibly bellboys at the reception.
You'll want to buy a guest book for your guests to sign, and you'll need to plan out the seating at the reception.
Go to your make-up and hair appointments.
Make honeymoon plans.
Shortly before the wedding, you'll want to pack for the honeymoon.
Don't forget to have thank you cards ready to send to you guests for the presents they gave you.
You'll want to arrange for wedding favors for each seated guest. This is where our Personalized Wedding Favor Chopsticks come in!
Personalized Wedding Favor Chopsticks
Many people have wedding programs printed - work with your local printer on this. The printer can help with place cards if you need a lot, or you can buy pre-made ones. Prepare a seating chart for you guests.
Wedding custom trivia
The ring finger is thought to be connected to the heart through a vein.
Wedding cakes were 1st a loaf of bread, broken over the bride's head to herald in a fertile and happy life.
"Something old" is a reminder of the brides past.
Something new represents her hope for the future.
Something borrowed is related to good luck. And something blue…?
The veil is a symbol of the bride's innocence
Throwing rice is a wedding tradition that started in Asia and was thought to portend many children in the couple's future. This custom has been know to be deadly to some birds however J
Bride's were carried over the threshold because they were shy about entering the marriage chamber.